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~25%

Online daters pursue partners about 25% more desirable than themselves

A large study of online dating found a pronounced desirability hierarchy, with both men and women messaging partners about 25% more desirable than themselves. The market is steep and competitive — but it's an emergent pattern both sexes create, not a system "rigged" against men.

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Analysing millions of messages, researchers found a steep desirability hierarchy in which both sexes reach about 25% "up" — and most messages go unanswered as a result. [1]

both men and women pursue partners who are on average about 25% more desirable than themselves

Bruch & Newman, Science Advances (2018)
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What it does and doesn't establish

Online dating is genuinely competitive, and men do get less attention on average. But the hierarchy is produced by how everyone behaves — women climb the same ladder — so "rigged against men" imports a design the data don't show. Full context: is online dating rigged against men?

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  1. [1]Aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets · Science Advances · 2018-08-08 archived ↗

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